👀Reflections on Purposeful Living: The inner & outer knock-on effect

Finding one’s purpose in life gives assurance that one’s life matters in the grand scheme of things. This brings inner peace and inevitably builds one’s self-esteem, self-worth and therefore improves one’s mental health. This has a tremendous knock-on effect on people one interacts with at home and in society in general.

Such a person can easily become known as a worthy cornerstone and pillar for the successful building of a community, town or nation.

©️Nov2018 DENyamekye

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Unapologetically Me

No I am not like you, I am like me; with a mindset blueprint that’s an original, fingerprints and a heart beat, my own.

No I am not beautiful like you  I am beautiful like me; a masterpiece, uniquely sculptured first in my Maker’s mind, incomparable.

No I am not educated like you, I am educated in the measure the Divine dictated and my purpose affirms is sufficient for me.

No I am not a clown in the image of him, her or them. Nor a clone programmed to mimic those deemed the good, real and great. 

Yes, I am the one and only me, myself and I.

That’s me!

©️17May2018 DENyamekye

Discourse:

In today’s world there is so much pressure to look like someone else or achieve what they have achieved and this has escalated to dangerous proportions. I was horrified to see pictures of a young man who has had so much plastic surgery to look like his idol, Kim Kardashian. I was saddened and thought of how what would have been his own life path or destiny has been  discarded for a life as Kim Kardashian’s clone. This is one example of multitudes of similar cases were people live as clones or aspire to live as clones of someone else.

We are all uniquely made and indeed if we self-reject it is as if we are saying to our Maker that He made a mistake! We may not see ourselves as beautiful or we may feel insecure about certain areas of our lives, however we must come out of self pity and a deceptive mindset in relation to our worth. Such thinking and attitude is aimed at causes paralysis; the inability to complete otherwise productive projects, take risks that will eventually result in much success or achievement.

Each human being has an inner and external beauty that is unique and a purpose in life that is also unique even if it may be similar to that of others. This is regardless of skin colour, culture, nationality, economic or social status.

We each have potential to excel and live productive lives. But this is only possible if  we concentrate on our strengths and work to overcome our weaknesses rather than concentrate on what others are doing, what they have and what they look like in comparison to ourselves. May this poetic discourse “unapologucally me” be a source of personal reflection or meditation and encouragement.

©️2018 DENyamekye

 

The Cracked Mirror

Introduction

Many people struggle as Worthy in this poetic discourse below: They have achieved much in life and are giving, approachable and likeable yet time and time again they self reject.

If we recognise such tendencies within us; a false self-perception or a broken self image as though looking through a distorted  or broken mirror it is time to acknowledge this and engage in self assessment and analysis; what causes these cyclical tendencies, is there a root cause from childhood, early adulthood … seeking professional help through counselling and prayers may be a way forward; a problem shared is a problem halved and a problem that eventually goes away!

The Cracked Mirror

Her name was worthy.
She lived on abundance street, things were plentiful so was her guilt towards those with little, it was so pitiful.

With the best education in her quiver, knowledge as power was not great for it led to self debasing and the sinkhole of depression.

Showers of expressive love felt like pins and needles bruising her body as she decoded massive hate was at the pinnacle.

Words of kindness were like darts hitting her heart as she defined the glare of their eyes as cold and calculating.

Sought after by many who saw her as wise, she obliged, though hated the popular ride, so at times she would feign sickness and hide.

She rolled her eyes when her name “Worthy” was praised, crying out “why me and not them!”

Her inner self she deemed unworthy to be trapped in a life where she always felt guilty.

Escape she finally did in the cracked mirror of her destiny to create for herself a reality in that place of her preferred identity.

©️16-June2018 DEN -The Witness

The Street Dweller

Introduction
Whoever we might be, we all desire respect & dignity. Here is a street dweller’s self appraisal that is food for thought:

They call me “Homeless”

but don’t care to ask my name.

I prefer “Street Dweller”

’cause the streets are my home.

They call me purposeless

but life on the streets spell

“Survival of the fittest” that

makes me far from useless.

They call me hopeless

but I have hope as I am

streetwise.

From place to place I trek,

I know bins full of food,

and outside which shop to beg.

Bus drivers know me,

turn a blind eye when I hop

on for free rides with my dog Fred.

They call me senseless

but I put to use the common

sense given by the Most High

when I look to the sky and

can tell if it shall rain or shine.

Then I know where to lay

my head; in someone’s shed, a

fold up box, open air?

anywhere as long as it

is miles away from a fox!

I am a street dweller.

Yes, among life’s fittest.

A survivor, that’s who I am.

©DEN-The Witness – 24/09/2016

Note: Upon request, I have given permission for this poem to be incorporated in a play with other poems at a College in Lansing, Michigan USA in November 2019 to coincide with Thanksgiving. The play is about the life of a group of homeless people and entitled “I have a name”.

Reflection & Encouragement:

One who lives in a home, has an address to go to can easily think “why would one want to live on the streets! Whatever name one chooses to be called “Homeless” or “Street Dweller” does not change the fact that they are in an undesirable status in life!”

Such a thought is not necessarily malicious, most people prefer a roof over their heads, a place to call home. However as we can see from this poem, the street dweller is expressing how they perceive their situation or circumstance which is contrary to how people, to his or her knowledge perceive it.

The street dweller has accepted their status as their reality. The circumstance or situation which resulted in them being as such is neither here nor there, they are proud to be living on the streets and making good of their life on the streets. They have learnt to survive and have dignity and self respect. Their descriptive prose is also saying loud and clear: this is who I am, take it or leave it! They actually compel one to respect them.

A number of reflections and lessons can be derived from this poem as well as words of counsel and encouragement or exhortation, here are some:

If people superficially put you in a box, assume things about you or stereotype you because of how society and others perceive or treat “people like you” i.e your economic, social status and race or cultural background, it is actually only you and you alone who can dismantle those superficial or stereotypical assumptions about who they think you are or how they expect you to behave.

Not that you have to make a conscious effort to change their minds or attitudes about you; Your manner of self-perception, self-relation, self-definition and self-respect in relation to who you are and your circumstance will greatly influence how people treat and perceive you.

Despite being born as a member of a family you are a unique being.Unique also within one human race and within diverse racial or ethnic groups, social and economic group of the human race. There is only one you!

However if you find that despite being unique and basically your true self within and still feel unaccepted by some because of your social and economic status, nationality, race or cultural background there is nothing you can do about it. Everyone is entitled to their opinions. However you have to make sure that you stay true to who you are as a person and not be driven to say things or act in ways that agree with any false labels about who you are or what people think you are supposed to be.

People may not understand your circumstances or even know all the background experiences and elements which have made you who you currently are, but learning to connect with your true self within, loving and respecting who you are without comparison to anyone else will constantly shatter any adverse effects that negative words and actions may otherwise have on you.
There is a scripture in the bible “Love your neighbour as yourself”.

Self love and respect results in expressions of love and respect towards others also because you inevitably empathise, have compassion for or appreciate other human beings more. As much as you cultivate positive self worth so too you see the bigger picture; the world is full of people who are worthy to be loved and respected as you are. It is therefore impossible for people who have a habit of putting people down or taunting and backbiting to befriend you or be among your close circle of friends.

In the context of the Street Dweller’s message, being a survivor is being an overcomer from having your worth defined by how others perceive you. Whatever your status or circumstance in life, ensure that you can say like the Street Dweller:
“Yes, among life’s fittest.
A survivor, that’s who I am.”

Note: This poem & discourse “Who I’m I? It’s a matter of Perception!
is in my book “Wielding the Sword of the Spirit” a book of interrelating inspirational teachings/devotions & poems chapter by chapter.

Dare To Be

9EB82C53-1846-44EB-9862-842A75580C02Dare to be who you are created to be not a sorry image of another.

A clone of someone you are programmed to think is better.

Ride on your own cloud, the best your maker has on offer. 

When the going is good and you just want to bluff, don’t forget all you achieved even when the going got tough. 

Count your blessings name them one by one so you will never fail to see what the LORD has done!

©Nov2017 DENyamekye

Gang Life …Not A Life!

(Spoken Word Poetry)

Introduction: Gang life is a lifestyle for those whose self worth or purpose on earth is dependent on or derived from being part of a gang. 

For someone to become a member of a gang, there are reasons that include these three points; A desire to 

-belong to a family structure and feel accepted

-be loved 

-feel their opinions and life matters.

None of these three desires were fulfilled in their formative years at home among family members for various reasons and therefore as they grow up, the young people seek fulfilment through friends and acquaintances surrounding them. 

Many young people and adults have engaged in murder, robbery and other criminal activity as a result of being part of gangs. 

They have also self harmed through drug and alcohol addiction. 

Multitudes have ended up in jail and have been killed. 

3A1FB516-0B90-46A3-849D-EF05F94F37F8In this spoken word piece “Gang Life not a Life”, the futility and dangers of gang life are addressed and highlighted:

Gang life, not a life but a distraction, a bonding of vision borne out of anger, a uniting of mission unto danger.

Don’t wanna feel a reck! 

Opposing society is the gang man, sees his ego, it’s downsizing.

Don’t wanna to be kept in check! 

Inflating as somebody, while society deflates him: a nobody.

Don’t care about a pay cheque! 

Walking in step with the corrupt, in unison they trek to no man’s land.

Absolutely must gain respect!  

Hailed as a destroyer, gang land trophies to amass: preferred, than be mocked: a worm in the hood. 

Gang life, composing a future jail bird’s song.

Gang life, weaving a eulogy to come. 

Gang life…not a life !

©Mar2018DENyamekye